Thursday, 31 January 2019

In 2019 I will..

It's the end of January and since the start of the year I've started to think about what 2019 will have in store for me. Each year I would make some resolution that wouldn't last a week. Last year however I made a change and instead of making any resolutions I decided to choose a few things I wanted to achieve by years end. I wasn't sure how it would go at the beginning. I didn't set any time frame for starting each but I just made a point of getting what I wanted to do written down. 

I've taken a look back on my 'In 2018 I will..' post and I'm really surprised that I managed to do almost everything on there! An important aim for me at the beginning of last year was to find time for myself. I rarely found five minutes when I was just doing something for me. Over the space of 12 months I don't feel I've found much time, at least not on a daily basis where I don't have to do anything for anyone else. That said I do think I found some time just for me. Scarlet is older and she's not as clingy as she had been which allows me to find a few minutes to throw on some make-up, drink a hot cup of coffee or watch a video on YouTube from time to time. 

My other aims included moving the blog which happened in May. I wasn't sure I'd get there since I had to learn coding, create a whole look, theme and more between our usual posts and two children. I'm glad I found the time and dedicated every spare moment to the move that I had. I love our new home here online and I'm hoping we'll stay here for a long time yet! 

I'd also planned to declutter our house which although is started, it's more of an ongoing project which I'm pretty happy with. We've probably cut our toy collection by about a quarter, possibly a third and we've decluttered big areas of our lives like clothing, shoes, spaces we used to just keep things we might need and we've sorted through a large portion of baby items from Scarlet which actually happened long before we found out about baby number 3!

Finally I had planned to lose weight during 2018 and for the first half of the year I did. I lost enough to drop down a dress size. I tried slimming world although that didn't last and I ended up just being healthier about my food choices, cut out sweet treats and ate less carbs. Come the second half I wasn't as concerned about my need to diet or lose weight as much I was with my overall health. I am actually pretty healthy. I get a decent amount of daily exercise and more than the recommended half hour a day since we walk, a lot. 

Learn how to love my body more

Which actually leads me to something I want to achieve throughout 2019. I want to be more Body Positive. In 2018 I came across the Body Positivity Movement, which is all about people who love their bodies, flaws and all because nobody is perfect and we should all be accepted in society. I'm not skinny, in fact the only time I was skinny was in my teen years when I basically didn't eat more than a meal every day.  Even then I wasn't happy with my body, I didn't have a flat stomach, I had large thighs (probably due to the muscles my legs needed to drag around a pair of New Rock boots daily) I had bingo wings and I hated it all! As time has gone on I have found that I am more accepting of my body and the way it is despite being pretty healthy. I have got PCOS and unfortunately difficulty losing weight and maintaining a weight is actually a part of that. My body does have it's own 'happy' size which I've stayed around or at since having Dylan 6 years ago without the need to diet or adjust my lifestyle. It's this size which I always go back to after finishing a strict diet but that size is classed as 'obese' for my height. Since I am now over half way through my third pregnancy I'm ready to start being as happy with my body after I give birth as I am when I'm pregnant and growing another human. This year I will be becoming more body positive although I've not yet decided if it's something I will talk about here. 

Create better routines

Although we do have a routine we tend to stick to there are some places in which I would like to improve our routine. It's mainly around Scarlet's sleep pattern that I would like to try to create a routine which we stick to. In the next two moths both children will go into a room together and Scarlet will have her own bed. Throughout this coming year I would like to find a good routine that works for her and that once the new baby comes we can easily adjust to accommodate everyone. At the minute Scarlet sleep when she feels like it and often she can be still be awake come 10pm or after. So this year I will be trying to start a better sleeping routine and maybe adding in some set times to do an activity with both Dylan and Scarlet each day. If you've got any tips on how to start setting a good routine with a toddler then please do leave me a comment. 

Redecorate most of our house

There are areas in our home which have needed a new lick of paint for a while now and despite our intentions it's always been put off. This year will be different. I am determined to get the whole house redecorated throughout this year. Everything from painting the rooms and giving the children's room a complete makeover to repainting our radiators, skirting boards and even plastering some of the hall. It's a big project and it's one which we need to have mostly finished before May, when I'm due. SO there will be lots of DIY going on over the next several months! 

Have weekly tech free time as a whole family

We do have weekly times set aside for doing things as a family. We already have a movie night every Saturday evening where we will have some snacks and sit up on the sofa together watching a movie. However I would like to make some extra time each week to have some technology free time. I'm not really sure on if we should create time to do an arts and crafts activity, play a board game or do something different. I may even end up making a jar which we can all add some ideas into and choose one every week.

There you have it. This year I want to achieve these four things.It probably won't be easy and I might not do every one in the way I think I want to now however I hope that things will slowly be ticked off as we go along.

Have you got any goals for 2019?

Wednesday, 30 January 2019

Finding out we're having baby number 3

Having another baby wasn't really on my radar. We'd decided that after the pregnancy problems I'd had with Scarlet we had completed our little family. Fate on the other hand seems to have had a different plan all together. 

Having previously shared how difficult it can be for me to get pregnant with Polyscystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) things like having a regular period haven't happened since my early teens. In fact we'd been actively trying to get pregnant with Scarlet for over two years. Paired with still breastfeeding Scarlet, I had only had two cycles in the 18 months after giving birth. It wasn't worrying nor was it a big indication of anything for me. My cycle pretty much does what it pleases when it pleases. It always has. So when it didn't arrive I didn't even think twice.

Since I was still breastfeeding Scarlet any changes or tenderness usually got put down to that. Looking back there probably was times when it was more about pregnancy tenderness rather than feeding. It just happened at times when I would expect to be uncomfortable. Come Christmas Scarlet had gotten sick and decided she was stopping with breastfeeding. It was only when she refused to feed a few days later but still wanted to be close and try that I started to connect the dots. 

I've been very lucky with symptoms this pregnancy, mostly I haven't had any. I didn't have any morning sickness. I haven't caught any colds or flu's that the children didn't bring home and I hadn't really felt any different. Which is really contrasted in my last two pregnancies, with Dylan I got ill with bugs a lot in the beginning. We'd found out I was pregnant when I visited the doctor with a bad kidney infection. With Scarlet I knew, right away at two weeks with nausea and implantation pains as well as ovulation pains which had never happened before. This time there really wasn't anything.

The big sign that made me think I was pregnant was movement. Over Christmas I started to feel some movement. It wasn't big movements and at the start I was fobbing it off as digestion issues. Around this time I started to get a build up of acid and began cutting out fizzy drinks and acidic foods. The movements grew stronger through the week between Christmas and New Year. By the time January came I was almost sure I was pregnant and when we headed out shopping I grabbed a test. 

Of course the test came back positive and waiting down stairs I told Simon the news. Things moved pretty quickly. It was a Thursday night and come Friday afternoon we'd been to see the doctor at an emergency appointment. By her estimation I was around 20 weeks. Yes 20 weeks! Have you ever seen the show 'I didn't know I was pregnant'? Well I felt like one of the women on there right around that time. I was referred to the hospital with an urgent note to be seen as soon as they had space. 

Which only left us to deal with the shock of it all. After a few days we did start to come around the shock and we've been excited about our little surprise since. Life is going to change a whole lot and we won't have very much time before it all happens since we are over half way there already. However we already love our little surprise and we are looking forward to meeting them. As well as hopefully enjoying the final half of this pregnancy.

Thursday, 24 January 2019

One, Two, We're Having Baby Number Three




We had quite the start to the year in January with some pretty unexpected news. In the first few days of January we found out that we are growing our family by one more set of little feet! Yes our little family of four will soon be growing into a family of five!

As you can imagine it really has been quite the month for us all. We're very excited now the shock has worn off and Dylan is delighted to be having another little baby in our home. The surprises didn't quite stop there, we'll actually be meeting our third little baby in May this year so we've already passed the half way mark now!

Over the next several months I will share weekly blog posts on our pregnancy journey. The next week or two will have another few posts about finding out about baby number three and a short post on how pregnancy has been so far.

Tuesday, 22 January 2019

All about my year 2018

We're well into January now and I had actually planned to write this post somewhere around two weeks ago. However right around that time life got pretty crazy and it hasn't exactly slowed down since. So here I am nearing the end of January and I am finally getting around to recapping on how 2018 was for us. Oops? Last year I did this post after being tagged but I really liked how it all came together to remember how 2017 was for us so I decided to do it again although I wasn't tagged this year by any other bloggers. 

I do hope that everyone had a lovely Christmas and New Year even if that now feels like it was a million years ago. 

1. What did you do for your birthday this year? 

I don't think much changed from last year, I sat around and drank copious amounts of coffee between spending time with Dylan, Scarlet and Simon. I had time to just relax. I got a long hot bath and I enjoyed every moment of me time in the crazy run up to Christmas. I loved it! .

2. Whats the biggest thing to happen to you this year? 

Nothing big really happened to me in 2018. There was no big event to be honest. I turned 25 but that is as exciting as it got! 

3. What was the biggest thing to happen for your child/children this year? 

For Dylan I would have to go with the fact it snowed and the snow stayed, for days! Right over his fifth birthday and he was delighted! We all headed out in the freezing cold to celebrate and it was wonderful. Dylan doesn't remember seeing real snow that stayed long enough to play with and make snowballs. So we really made the most of it and had a snowball fight over the days it snowed. It also meant that school was closed!

Apart from turning one, the biggest thing to happen to Scarlet was learning to walk, she was trying to walk for so very long to walk and she'd much rather hold your hand and walk than to crawl. She started to take her first steps back in April but she really found her feet and took off at quite some speed during Dylan's sports day at school in June. She had amazing balance from the start so when she got going there really wasn't any stopping her! 

4. Could you pick a favourite week of the year? 

If I had to choose just one I would go with one of the weeks during the summer. We had some glorious days of sunshine and we spent as much time as we could together, getting out and having fun. My favourite week of summer had to be the week when we visited the zoo for the very first time, we had days at the park and my mum visited during that week too. 

5. Do you have a favourite photograph of yourself from 2017? 

This selfie of myself from back in June is my favourite of just me from this year. It's not often I get a photo of myself that doesn't make me want to point out my own flaws and this is one of the rare few!

6. What was your best day out? 

Visiting the Zoo for the first time. Sadly it was something me and the children did without Simon as he doesn't travel well and it's quite a walk away not to mention that it's entirely uphill so it is also quite a climb. We had an amazing day and Dylan was super impressed with every animal we found. He especially loved the monkeys and the bear. We plan to go back this coming summer as a family. 

7. What is the best film you have seen this year? 

Funnily enough I actually think it was Bird Box which is something I watched in very late December but it was amazing! I loved every second and it's not usually something I would choose. I'm glad I did and if you've not watched then I highly recommend you do. 

8. Is there anything you wish didn't happen this year? 

I got some bad news towards the end of this year regarding the health of a very dear family member. We haven't spoken in a long time and it had a big impact on me and my whole family. We can't change the news and we will have to deal with it some more this year.

9. What would you like to achieve or improve for 2019? 

This coming year I mainly want to be happier in myself. Through 2018 I found the Body Positivity movement on social media, this coming year I am hoping that I will be much more accepting of myself and my body. Just because I am overweight doesn't mean I shouldn't be happy too! So this year I want to change that. I'll have more coming up with a what I want from 2019 sometime in the next week or so. 

10. How will you be celebrating/did you celebrate New Years Eve?

We stayed home as per usual and Dylan stayed up for the first time ever to see the new year in! I'm not going to lie, come 9pm I was regretting saying he could as I was loosing my mine. He made it the entire night and we had fun watching Harry Potter together while we counted down the final hours of 2018. 

There you go. A whole year in 10 questions. It's amazing that it's over and we are already barrelling head long into 2019!

How was 2018 for you?

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